Boundaries or no boundaries?
I can argue both sides of this case and I bet you could too. But it doesn’t matter because, we must accept that, we can’t do and be all things to all people.
If you’re like me, you’ve probably tried, but in my experience, it isn’t an attempt worth making.
A life without healthy boundaries means saying yes, no matter your capacity, or time.
And where does that get you?
Studies show this way of living leaves 87% feeling guilty, exhausted, and stressed out.
Set Boundaries For Your Health, Wealth, and Happiness
My friends tease me all the time about my boundaries. Here are a few:
- Be my emails below 50 every Friday by 5.
- Stop speaking when someone picks up their device.
- Meditate for 15 minutes twice a day.
- One cup of coffee a day.
- Eat meat 3 times a week.
These are some of the boundaries or rules I have set up to create a life I felt was worth living.
Boundaries play an important role in my life because I default to self-sabotaging behavior from time to time and that used to get in my way of achieving things as quickly as I wanted. Thinking through what I want for myself in advance means honoring the person I want to be tomorrow.
And because I have these boundaries in place I’m always clear about what to do, where to go, what to say and to whom. This level of clarity and focus means never feeling like I didn’t honor the true essence of my being, which is what happens when I allow myself to get lost in the darkness of chaos.
What Happens When You Set Healthy Boundaries
Setting healthy boundaries is about honoring the matter to you most. you remove some of the distraction and chaos more of the activity you do each day is a contribution towards an achievement.
Mindfulness is the awareness on the present moment while acknowledging and accepting how you feel and what you think. This allows you to recognize your needs and feelings as your own, and not related to someone or something.
Boundaries allow for rejuvenation. When you allow yourself to be selective about how you invest your time and energy, you have more energy and enthusiasm for those you love and care for. You’re also more aware of their needs.
Boundaries give you the opportunity to care for your personal needs. Just because self-love is luxurious, that’s doesn’t mean it’s not a necessity. Boundaries protect your energy so you have it when you want it most.
When you are trying to be all things to all people you take on stress that goes along with that and our resources are quickly drained.
To establish boundaries, you will have to find a way to share what you will and will not be able to accept. Be clear and concise in these conversations. Express your needs to be more transparent about your intention to be the best version of you, you can be for or them.
Making changes in your life may be difficult for some people around you. By expressing your boundaries, you give others an opportunity to build trust by sharing your emotions. The more trust you have in your relationships the stronger it is.
Do you ever just feel groovy? More groovy days are in your future when you take control of what you do. When you don’t, you hand over control of your life to other people and that could lead to resentment.
You will say no more often. As you may know, “no” is a complete sentence. I won’t say it’s easy to use it, but I will say it’s necessary. When you say no to others, you say yes to yourself. It’s your time, so do what is meaningful and fulfills you.
Without unnecessary obligations, you enjoy more freedom to do more of what you want with your time.
When you protect your energy, you feel secure to allow yourself to be authentic, compassionate and loving in your interactions. This makes sense when you consider how being compassionate towards ourselves, cultivates more compassion towards others.
By creating boundaries, you get a more fulfilled and meaningful life, deeper relationships, and achieve more.
So, does creating boundaries limit you or give you more freedom? I’d like to know. Please share your ah-has, comments, questions, and thoughts in the comment section below, or email me at Carmen@WellbeingMessenger.com. I am here for you and I personally respond to all of my emails and comments.
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Until next time, live with passion, purpose, and play.
Carmen M. Perez, Your Wellbeing Messenger
Lifestyle Coach for Women in Business
Growth ~ Marketing ~ Performance
Author, Motivational Speaker, Mentor, Mother, Wife, and Lover of Life
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