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Build Strong Family Relationships by Celebrating
When I was a little girl growing up on the northwest side of Chicago, a huge focus for my family was to build strong relationships. On Thanksgiving, my Abuella would wake up and start cooking our feast well before the sun rose. All her children, spouses, and their children would fill the house to capacity around dinner time. The adults gathered in the kitchen catching up on gossip. Meanwhile, the kids ran around, playing, screaming, and crying. All at the same time.
It was absolute chaos and we loved every minute. This Thanksgiving scene would be one of many that would be repeated each and every year throughout my adulthood.
Abuella passed away October 30th, 2013. While I feel her loss daily, I am comforted knowing the love and gratitude I showed my grandmother for creating a rich family culture for her 12 children and their many, many offspring. Today I honor her by doing the same for my family. Most importantly, I am giving them the tools they need to build strong relationships themselves.
As I share in my book, Be a Spiritual Girl in a Material World, nothing influences our levels of happiness as much as our relationships.
I am sure you have a story just like mine and because of it, you are closer to those you celebrate with.
Traditions Create More Than a Reason to Celebrate
Using my Abuella’s formula, I love entertaining and finding a reason to celebrate. In addition, I’ve even embraced new holidays to create more reasons to come together to enjoy my family and friends. The truth is, they give us so much more than happy memories.
Family traditions give identity, strength, security, and connection.
Identity | Our traditions and rituals tell a story about you. Traditions create an opportunity to share with your children where their family came from and give them an insight into their culture. They also serve as reminders of the events that shape our lives.
Strength | Studies show that families who engage in frequent traditions have a stronger connection and unity than families who don’t have established rituals. Celebrating our traditions give us a rare opportunity to interact face-to-face with our family members. This helps build trust and create a bond that comes from feeling like you are a part of something special.
Security | Our life is ever-changing in this fast-paced world we have created. Traditions provide a constant in our lives that comfort us during times of change and grief.
Connection | Traditions bridge younger generations to older generations. Traditions give them an opportunity to share and ask questions or why certain traditions came to be.
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Transcript of Build Strong Relationships
Thrive Vibe | How to Create Strong Relationships By Celebrating
Following is a full transcript of this #ThriveVibe. Each is created, outlined, and delivered by Carmen M. Perez, The Wellbeing Messenger, creating or www.WellbeingMessenger.com. The lifestyle blog for high achieving women who want to calm the chaos, reclaim their time and create a successful travel business their life loves.
Hello and Welcome! Thank you for joining me for another Wellbeing Messenger’s Thrive Vibe; where we talk about how to calm the chaos, reclaim your time, and transform the way you experience your world.
How to Create Strong Relationships
Do you enjoy celebrating?
Lots of people I know complain about all the fanfare and parties, but I have to tell you, I absolutely love them. I always have.
When I was a little girl growing up on the northwest side of Chicago, on the holidays and Thanksgiving, of course, my abuela would wake up and start cooking our Thanksgiving feast just as the sun began to rise. Now all of her children’s spouses and grandchildren would fill up the house to capacity by dinnertime and the adults would gather in the kitchen catching up on family happenings, the latest gossip, and the kids ran around playing, screaming, and crying all at the same time. It was absolute chaos and we loved every moment.
This Thanksgiving scene would be one of many celebrations that would be repeated each and every year throughout my childhood and adulthood until I moved to Orlando Florida in 2004.
Abuela passed away in October 2013 and why I still feel her loss daily, I am comforted knowing that the love and gratitude I showed my grandmother for creating such a rich culture of family. Today I honor her by doing the same every time I have the opportunity, and I do it to build strong relationships.
I’m Carmen Perez, the Wellbeing Messenger, and the creator of the Lifestyle Blog Wellbeingmessenger.com. This lifestyle blog is for high achieving women who want to live more mindfully and achieve more personal, radical success without sacrificing their health, wealth, and happiness.
Traditions Create More Than a Reason To Celebrate
Now little did I know that the bonds created during these meaningful, traditional dinners were building good family relationships that really bind people to one another.
As I share in my book, “Be a Spiritual Girl in a Material World”, nothing influences our levels of happiness as much as our relationships.
I’m sure you have a story just like the one that I share about your celebrations and because of that you were closer to those that you celebrated with. The lesson I took away from all of these experiences was that traditions mean more than just celebrating.
Using my abuela’s formula, I love entertaining and finding reasons to celebrate. I even embrace new holidays to create reasons to come together to enjoy my families and friends. And the truth is the special times to celebrate give us so much more than happy memories.
Traditions connect us by bridging younger generations to older generations.
They give us an opportunity to share and ask questions about why certain traditions came to be. I love the family stories that I have.
Traditions anchor our identity.
Our traditions are rituals and they tell a story about our lives and what we believe. Traditions create an opportunity to share with our children where their family came from and give them insight into their culture. They also serve as a reminder of the events that shape our lives.
Traditions help us feel security.
Our life is ever changing in this fast-paced environment and traditions provide a constant in our lives that comfort us, especially during times of change and grief.
Traditions build our Strength.
Studies show that families who engage in frequent traditions have stronger connections and more unity than families who don’t have established rituals. Celebrating our traditions gives us a rare opportunity to interact face-to-face with our family members. This helps build trust and creates a bond that comes from feeling like you’re part of something special, which I know I certainly did.
So, you see, family traditions give us connection, identity, security, and strength. Something I think a lot of us are missing because of the busyness and pressure to be and do it all.
We chalk up celebrating in a significant way as a luxury, but it is a necessity. If this is something that you got caught up in, please let this serve as your reminder to bring it back to basics and celebrate what’s most important in life with the most important people in your life.
And if you’re open to it, I’d love to hear from you.
Has celebrating or not celebrating impacted you?
What do you remember?
What do you feel about your celebrations?
In a world where less than half the population feel meaningfully connected to their family and friends, we need to be more mindful of what matters to create more meaning in our lives if we hope to create a life worth living.
Please share your ah-ha’s, comments, questions, and thoughts in the comments section or by emailing me at Carmen@WellbeingMessenger.com.
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