Build Strong Family Relationships by Celebrating
When I was a little girl growing up on the northwest side of Chicago, a huge focus for my family was to build strong relationships. On Thanksgiving, my Abuella would wake up and start cooking our feast well before the sun rose. All her children, spouses, and their children would fill the house to capacity around dinner time. The adults gathered in the kitchen catching up on gossip. Meanwhile, the kids ran around, playing, screaming, and crying. All at the same time.
It was absolute chaos and we loved every minute. This Thanksgiving scene would be one of many that would be repeated each and every year throughout my adulthood.
Abuella passed away October 30th, 2013. While I feel her loss daily, I am comforted knowing the love and gratitude I showed my grandmother for creating a rich family culture for her 12 children and their many, many offspring. Today I honor her by doing the same for my family. Most importantly, I am giving them the tools they need to build strong relationships themselves.
As I share in my book, Be a Spiritual Girl in a Material World, nothing influences our levels of happiness as much as our relationships.
I am sure you have a story just like mine and because of it, you are closer to those you celebrate with.
Traditions Create More Than a Reason to Celebrate
Using my Abuella’s formula, I love entertaining and finding a reason to celebrate. In addition, I’ve even embraced new holidays to create more reasons to come together to enjoy my family and friends. The truth is, they give us so much more than happy memories.
Family traditions give identity, strength, security, and connection.
Identity | Our traditions and rituals tell a story about you. Traditions create an opportunity to share with your children where their family came from and give them an insight into their culture. They also serve as reminders of the events that shape our lives.
Strength | Studies show that families who engage in frequent traditions have a stronger connection and unity than families who don’t have established rituals. Celebrating our traditions give us a rare opportunity to interact face-to-face with our family members. This helps build trust and create a bond that comes from feeling like you are a part of something special.
Security | Our life is ever-changing in this fast-paced world we have created. Traditions provide a constant in our lives that comfort us during times of change and grief.
Connection | Traditions bridge younger generations to older generations. Traditions give them an opportunity to share and ask questions or why certain traditions came to be.
Have you noticed this too? If so I’d love to know your story. Share it along with your ah-has, comments, questions, or thoughts by emailing me at Carmen@WellbeingMessenger.com. I am here for you and I personally read and respond to all my emails and comments.
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Carmen M. Perez
The Wellbeing Messenger
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